Relationships work best when balanced with both partners feeling happy with themselves & with you. Each day you choose to be with your partner as they choose to be with you. If you want to both keep making that choice then you need to take steps to keep your relationship healthy & satisfying.
Try these ways;
Learn each others love language. Its widely known there are 5 and we each feel all of them however there is a couple that stand out personally. Learn yours and learn your partners.
We all have bad days and moods, accept that, acknowledge that and if you disagree with your partner don't excessivly argue, take some space if you need to and then let it go. They are your partner not opponent.
Keep your personal identity. Healthy relationships need balance between having shared couple-experiences that nurture the relationship while at the same time meeting personal needs as an individual (e.g spend time with friends).
Do not take your phone to bed. When its time to hit the bedroom, leave the technology out of it. Your bed is for couple time, sex and sleeping. No scrolling- go to bed just the 2 of you and leave your followers/friends out of it.
Compromise. Sometimes we all have to do things we don't want to do, go places we dont feel like going to. Compromise with your partner, remember balance between both partners wants and needs. It is not all about you (or him).
Actively try new things together, share new experiences such as a gym class, try a new cafe, go for a run at a different track, ice skating, ski weekend away, build a puzzle (that's essential remember). Whatever interests you. Taking time to play and do new things together creates positive experiences and breaks repetitive routines.
Talk it out. Communicate. No-one is a mind reader, speak to your partner, maintain a friendship & honest flow of conversation including telling them your feelings as you are aware of them. Please never give any silent treatment (unless its biting your tongue!)
Fight clean and fair. NO name calling, swearing and do not bring up past disputes or threathen to leave the relationship (unless you mean it). Words do hurt, be mindful.
Embrace passion & have sex regularly. Intimacy is one of the key differences in friend vs a lover & creates a strong bond between each other physically and emotionally.
Show appreciation and love. Couples can often fail to focus on the basics, never take your partners presence for granted. Remind them of things you like about them, thank them when they do something helpful or kind, share the load of (life) work and display partnership. Oh, and always hug and kiss hello and good bye no matter what mood or rush you may be in.
Focus on your own mental health. You have likes, needs, wants and things to do, ensure you meet your personal needs. Take a barre class, learn a course, see your friends, get to your beauty appointments, cook your meals, whatever is important to you, make time to do it. You need to be internally happy & confident with yourself if you want to be happy in life & love.
“The grass is greener where you water it.” -Neil Barringham
Love is love, this article may use female/male pronouns however the advice applies to all sexual orientations and gender identities.
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